It’s a wonder that someone like me gets anything done at all. True, I am a woman in the prime of my life, owner of a hustling & bustling clothing company. But that’s not all, I’m also a full time wifey (cooking, cleaning, the works), the mother of three nearly grown people and a one year old! I also strive to be a great daughter, a dependable friend and forever student of life, all of which require time and patience and dedication and Love. Many of you have asked me how I do it all, so I’ve decided to share a few of my productivity secrets here in the Sweet Skins blog.
I used to hate the idea of being on a schedule. I never lasted long at a job (the combination of needing to be somewhere at an externally imposed time & in an assigned uniform, yuck! not for me.) I even home schooled my kids for several years, in large part to avoid scrunching my family into someone else’s schedule. That worked pretty well for us for a while, but now that I’ve got my own business, on top everything else, the ‘when-the-mood-strikes-me’ method of accomplishing tasks can cause a tremendous amount of back-ups in the system, fast! If you are an over-achiever like me (meaning you bite off way more than you can humanly chew), you may accumulate endless to-do lists. on sticky notes. on scraps of paper. on your phone. on your computer. each day you scratch off a few items, and add a ton more. It took me years of hearing the advice “put it on the calendar” for me to really understand HOW to do that. It sounded so simple, but I literally didn’t get how to decide where to put what, when..?
It all started coming together when I gave some thought to the origin of each day’s name sake, and the ancient wisdom behind them. Sunday isn’t called Sunday because it has a cute ring to it. Sunday is actually the day for worshiping our Sun. the center of your Universe. You and your Higher Self (or your God). That’s why you don’t work on Sunday! Some go to church on Sunday. Some make time for self care and meditation. Sunday illuminates our Goal. It’s the perfect day to turn within, connect with our inner selves and Give Thanks! Whatever it is that feeds your soul, make time for it on Sunday!
Monday is the “Moon” day. The Moon is associated with all thing domestic (and ‘motherly’). On Monday I keep it pretty relaxed. I sweeping the floor. I go to the grocery store. and pull out the crock pot. I make time to get in a little one-on-one time with my kids on Mondays. On Monday’s I keep my work to mostly that of the domestic sort.
Tuesday: Woo hoo, I love Tuesdays! Tuesday’s are backed by the Power of Mars! It is the work force day. Watch out world, I’m taking Little Man to his Play School and Mama’s gonna kick some major ass working on Sweet Skins. I put some big, important powerful “get ‘er done!” type of tasks on Tuesday. Don’t ask me to meet you for lunch on this day, I’m working straight through & lovin’ it!
Wednesday: Because it is ruled by Mercury, Wednesday is the best day for communication and correspondence. Don’t be surprised if you are more quick witted on Wednesday. This the day of the week when I really dive into the email ‘stack’. make those phone calls. and generally schedule anything that involves outreach.
Thursday: Is ruled by Jovial Jupiter. Jovial indeed, but Jupiter IS also the Big Boss. It’s a day for diplomacy. for getting the team together. holding a pep rally. Thursday is a day for teaching my intern a thing or two. It’s great for banking and financial planning. It is a day to tally up my successes, and paying the bills.
Friday: Is Freyja’s day. The day of Love & Beauty. It’s the sexiest day of the week. I make the effort to dress up a bit more than usual on Fridays. and schedule in any social events or lunch dates. On Friday’s I do work, but I do creative things like designing new styles, and playing with fabric & color (‘cause to me, that’s a Party!).
Saturday: Saturday is ruled by the Taskmaster Saturn. True, true Saturn is the lord of structure, but that doesn’t have to take all the fun out of Saturday. In addition to all the hard work and structure, Saturn is about reaping the reward. It’s a good day to look over the P & L’s. structure the weeks spending and buying plans. Saturday is the day to pull together any random To-Do lists that may have sprouted up over the week, and begin plugging each task into Your Magical Calendar, one at a time on the most fitting day of the upcoming week. or month. or whenever it needs to be done. Don’t be scared to plan ahead. The further the better. If you need to do it once a month, schedule it out for the whole darn year! Whatever little tasks are required to make your Dreams come true.. put them on the Calendar!
And now, that your coming out of the fog as far as when to schedule what, get firm about it (not strict, but firm) and put yourself 100% into whatever you are doing each day. be fully present each moment. and don’t worry your head about what’s on tomorrow agenda. You are living today to the fullest. This is where the magic happen!
(fashion show pictures by Roger Rix, Eugene Oregon)
I’m one of those people who thought that 2013 was going to be the shift into some amazing and wonderful new reality. I still do think so, but man it has not been an easy one! Starting the year off with a bran new bouncing baby boy, the love of my life full time and a couple of cute ‘n crazy new step kids (in addition to my own big kids), is one thing. But if you happen to be a crazy inspired fashion designing business woman, there you have a juxtaposition! Never mind, I’ve worked with a baby in tow before. It’s been a while, but it is somewhat like riding a bike. Strap the kiddo on and get to work!
We started by renovation the Sweet Skins retail store. Tore down a few walls, moved everything to the opposite side of the space and built new dressing rooms. Lighting. New back stock shelving. It’s beautiful and feels much more spacious. We love it!
Next, we scored a deal on an awesome new studio space. Finally the workspace of my dreams. A place fit for laying out wide bolts of fabric, for doing pattern work without bumping into walls, a corner for my inspiration boards and color charts. and my desk. a play area for the kids. a place for all my gals to gather together and do the work that is ‘making Sweet Skins’!
But wait! no sooner had I signed the new lease on the new space, that my home owning landlord sends me an email telling me that she’s selling the place, “ in 30 days!” For real? Is that even legal? Apparently so. Not a moments peace after receiving that news. She had contractors and painters and yard workers over at my place almost every day until we moved. 5 years worth of living, loving, working and raising kids in a home, packed up and out in 30 days, baby in tow. We considered living in the warehouse, like a couple of punk rock kids. But we’re not that anymore. Instead we found a temporary home, small but sunny on the wrong side of the tracks. Just a cheap & simple roof over the head, while we recover from the trauma and dream up a new dream..
This summer of 2013 we have had many bumps and bruises, a few broken bones and a run in with whooping cough. But lucky for me, all the ups and downs have been sweetly sprinkled with so much love and joy. lots of long walks and cozy moments with my guys. first steps of my baby. leisurely homemade brunches. what more is there to want for?
..well, there is fashion; a patient friend of my, who quietly beckons me to come play. Somehow I manage to get a little of this into my busy life. Despite all odds, I am able to keep the organic clothing rolling off the hemp bolts and onto your beautiful bodies! And for this I am giving myself a big pat on the back (instead of a kick on the butt, like I was doing). I have created the opportunity to play with fabrics, design clothing and make them come to life, out of thin air this summer. And I celebrated that fact, along side other amazing local designers at www.eugenefashionweek.com, with a twilight dusted Fashion Shows in the heart of the city. Life is a never ending project. and it IS good!